3 Things Not to Say to a Hearbroken Friend

We’ve all been there: the messy breakups, the seemingly unending heartbreak. Rough times, man, rough times. These are the moments where  you just want a shoulder to cry on, and an ear to bend. If you’re on the recieving end of these conversations, you have to proceed delicately. Be honest in  your approaches, but don’t make your friend feel dumb. Here are 3 things not to say to a heartbroken/newly single friend.

• Don’t say: “I’m glad you got rid of him/her. I never liked him/her anyway”.
• Why: The friend will wonder why you had the false admiration for the person while you were together; they’ll wonder what else you’re lying to them about
• Say instead: “I’m sure you’ll find someone who will give you exactly what you want/need.” This way, the focus is on bigger and brighter things and not what she/he just lost.

• Don’t say: “How can someone as perfect as you be single?”
• Why: Personally, I hate when people say this. It makes you feel like something is wrong with you; everything looks alright on the outside, but when you get in a relationship something goes wrong. Just stay away from this sentence all together.
• Say instead: “Seeing anyone?” This way, you can judge how one feels about their love life. If they’re tight-lipped, just move on.

• Don’t say: “You were too good for him”
• Why: This may seem like  you’re saying he/she has bad taste. Or it could be a confidence booster. Make sure you really know your friend before you drop this statement.
• Say instead: “His/her loss!” I think that’s pretty self explanatory.

Do you have any to add?

“My Mama Told Me So….”

Moms. You’ve got to love them! And why wouldn’t you? With all of their wit, funny anecdotes, and words to live by, moms just rock. I can’t even count the hordes of advice my mom has given me over the years. Some were more prolific than others. Others just made me laugh.

One instance was when my mom told me to always save a small reminder from moments in your life that made you “happy”. Over two decades later, the freezer was filled with over 20 different slices of cake from every “happy” birthday, “happy” anniversary, “happy” valentine’s day, and so on. And don’t even THINK about throwing any away!

 What funny/insightful advice has your mother given you?